Why Spouses Cheat
When cheating occurs, the first and one of the most common reactions that the victims have is to throw the cheaters out. There is little motivation to know why spouses cheat and see the other point of view. For the betrayed partner, it seems better to get the cheater out of her life because there is no place for such a person in it. A spouse who cheats is a “bad” spouse who doesn’t deserve any understanding and sympathy from you.
But is your spouse a really “bad” spouse if he has indeed had an affair? Should you understand him more and learn why spouses cheat before you decide to leave for good? Don’t you want to know what type of affair he is having? What if your marriage can be healed even if infidelity has occurred?
Dealing with an affair in a marriage is one of those cross-roads of life. If you need help deciding which way to turn and want to understand more in order to heal, you can try reading Mira Kirshenbaum’s When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts & Minds of People in Two Relationships
If you are not sure whether to spend your money on this book, just read through the reviews and you will get an idea what the contents are all about. Although this book is actually aimed at the cheaters rather than the betrayed partners, it is a good read to try to understand why it happened.
Some of the advice in the book is controversial. That is probably the downside to this book because not everyone can accept advices that skid the edge of morality. But this is also what makes this book a worthwhile read. That you can’t always judge things as strictly black and white. In life, there will always be shades of grey.