Why Spouses Cheat

admin — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 09:15:22 +0000

When cheating occurs, the first and one of the most common reactions that the victims have is to throw the cheaters out. There is little motivation to know why spouses cheat and see the other point of view. For the betrayed partner, it seems better to get the cheater out of her life because there is no place for such a person in it. A spouse who cheats is a “bad” spouse who doesn’t deserve any understanding and sympathy from you.

But is your spouse a really “bad” spouse if he has indeed had an affair? Should you understand him more and learn why spouses cheat before you decide to leave for good? Don’t you want to know what type of affair he is having? What if your marriage can be healed even if infidelity has occurred?

Dealing with an affair in a marriage is one of those cross-roads of life. If you need help deciding which way to turn and want to understand more in order to heal, you can try reading Mira Kirshenbaum’s When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts & Minds of People in Two Relationships.

If you are not sure whether to spend your money on this book, just read through the reviews and you will get an idea what the contents are all about. Although this book is actually aimed at the cheaters rather than the betrayed partners, it is a good read to try to understand why it happened.

Some of the advice in the book is controversial. That is probably the downside to this book because not everyone can accept advices that skid the edge of morality. But this is also what makes this book a worthwhile read. That you can’t always judge things as strictly black and white. In life, there will always be shades of grey.

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Saving Your Marriage

admin — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 09:08:38 +0000

Since cheating is usually a symptom of underlying problems between two people, saving your marriage will therefore require you to confront the problems head on. To help you to look into your marriage, you can try reading this book, Rescue Your Love Life, which is written by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.

It is not a book specifically about infidelity and cheating, but if you are thinking of saving your marriage, it is a good book to read. We recommend it because it is written in a way that is easy to digest and we think the points raised will help you towards recognizing your own attitudes and weaknesses that may have contributed to the problems in your marriage.

Basically, Rescue Your Love Life brings up eight dumb attitudes that will put a strain on your marriage and make it fall apart. With those attitudes also come some pointers on how to avoid them or improve your current situation. We find those dumb attitudes are pretty common in most marriages and many people simply tolerate them until it comes a time when the opportunity to seek comfort elsewhere arises. The extent of those dumb attitudes and how we deal with them daily also differ and these partly determine how toxic a marriage can become.

The authors espoused some Christian values in most of the chapters to reinforce universal concepts such as grace, which is necessary for a happy marriage. Their idea is you should always look at yourself first and take the first step to encourage a positive change in your marriage. If there is cheating going on right now, you certainly need to change when it comes to saving your marriage. Once you change in a positive way, it will influence your spouse to also work for the betterment of the marriage. This is similar to the concept of ‘give first, receive later’, which many find difficult to practise nowadays since it runs contrary to our need for instant gratification.

Anyway, if you are looking for a book on how to improve your marriage and want to take a look at your own attitudes that could shape the future of your relationship, then this book is for you.

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Why Spouses Cheat

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Saving Your Marriage

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