Signs Of Cheating – Taking Them One Step Further
There is this story of a woman whose husband cheated on her with all the classic signs of cheating being present. But she was a very trusting wife who didn’t suspect anything amiss until someone actually called her up at work to let her know that her husband is cheating.
This was an anonymous call from someone who is working in the other woman’s office. Usually, when an affair has been going on long enough (in her case for more than a year), you can’t really hide it from everyone. There are bound to be people who know.
The Signs Of Cheating Are There
Anyway, as can be seen in this case, a spouse can carry on cheating for a long time without you knowing. But the fact is a cheater would always display signs of cheating for you to see. The issue is whether you know how to interpret those signs correctly to arrive at the right conclusion.
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For the woman mentioned above, her husband displayed one of the commonest signs of cheating – working late nights. They became increasingly frequent. But because in a marriage, there must be trust, she didn’t see the overtime as a conduit for cheating.
Then, came the phone calls. She has a habit of showering each night after dinner although sometimes, she would wait until her kids are asleep before heading to the bathroom. But when the cheating started, her husband would offer to keep an eye on the kids while pushing her to have her shower earlier. While in the bathroom, she would be able to hear a distant click on the phone’s extension, signaling that the phone is being used.
As typical of cheaters, the lying would come as part of the package. When she asked her husband if there was a call while she was in the bathroom, the answer was always a big no. And she believed him all the way, reasoning that those clicks are merely the cause of a less than perfect phone system.
Making Sense Of The Signs
All these signs finally began to make sense when the anonymous call came through. Now, she knew the reasons for all those overtime, phone clicks and other little bits and pieces that didn’t seem quite right earlier.
So, if you look back, the signs of cheating are always clear. They are always there. It is only when you are still unaware of any cheating taking place that you think nothing of those signs that appeared. You rationalize and find excuses for their presence. Usually, it is when the signs become all too obvious when each one start piling on top of the other, that you probably begin to sit up and take notice. Alternatively, you begin to evaluate those signs more seriously when you stumble onto a piece of evidence that signifies cheating may be taking place.
Of course, on hindsight, the signs of cheating would always be clear cut. But what you can do is to be more alert and proactive so that you can minimize the time of blissful ignorance rather than letting the cheating go on for months or even years before you come to realize what is happening.
In the case above, a simple spot check by coming out of the bathroom to investigate when a click is heard may be all it takes to find out what is going on. Interpreting the signs correctly is all about trusting your gut feeling, being alert and taking the extra step to find out more.